For some reason that title seemed to fit this thought and this picture was right on! I watched 20/20 tonight (yes, you are jealous of my exciting Friday night) because Paul's back went out and he was snoring by 9:00 (to be honest, he doesn't really snore, but he was asleep)! So, I had nothing to do (another lie... I had nothing I wanted to do more than "veg" in front of the t.v.) and there was 20/20. The show was on Anger. Now, I am the first one to think nasty thoughts when I get cut-off, or wish big ugly warts to fall on the woman who gives me dirty looks for bringing 3 kids to well, anywhere! But I was reminded of a lesson I learned in college. "The Savior", so I was told by a professor, "never acted in anger." The more children I have and the more dry-clean only clothes I buy, the harder it is to wrap my head around that concept. But tonight on 20/20, psychologists, studies, etc. all said that anger is unhealthy for you physically, mentally, spiritually- in every way. They said that you should neither vent, nor bottle it up... you avoid it (which Christ had clearly mastered). Thanks to the Christ-Centered Parenting book I have read and need to re-read, I finally feel I have real tools that keep me from being a hungry, hungry hippo of anger (think of the visual above- we're cousins). Really though, I am grateful for time, because it doesn't always have to be filled (not by action, especially not by reaction). Most of my time these days are spent standing in the middle of a room, weighing the costs of my next action. And by the time I have made a decision, the spaghetti has hardened and is easier to clean up, I have realized the markers are washable, or I find two small arms hugging my leg to say sorry! I am never so grateful for not acting than at that moment and nothing is of more worth than that!
Friday, January 25, 2008
Hungry, Hungry Hippo
For some reason that title seemed to fit this thought and this picture was right on! I watched 20/20 tonight (yes, you are jealous of my exciting Friday night) because Paul's back went out and he was snoring by 9:00 (to be honest, he doesn't really snore, but he was asleep)! So, I had nothing to do (another lie... I had nothing I wanted to do more than "veg" in front of the t.v.) and there was 20/20. The show was on Anger. Now, I am the first one to think nasty thoughts when I get cut-off, or wish big ugly warts to fall on the woman who gives me dirty looks for bringing 3 kids to well, anywhere! But I was reminded of a lesson I learned in college. "The Savior", so I was told by a professor, "never acted in anger." The more children I have and the more dry-clean only clothes I buy, the harder it is to wrap my head around that concept. But tonight on 20/20, psychologists, studies, etc. all said that anger is unhealthy for you physically, mentally, spiritually- in every way. They said that you should neither vent, nor bottle it up... you avoid it (which Christ had clearly mastered). Thanks to the Christ-Centered Parenting book I have read and need to re-read, I finally feel I have real tools that keep me from being a hungry, hungry hippo of anger (think of the visual above- we're cousins). Really though, I am grateful for time, because it doesn't always have to be filled (not by action, especially not by reaction). Most of my time these days are spent standing in the middle of a room, weighing the costs of my next action. And by the time I have made a decision, the spaghetti has hardened and is easier to clean up, I have realized the markers are washable, or I find two small arms hugging my leg to say sorry! I am never so grateful for not acting than at that moment and nothing is of more worth than that!
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Oh Sarah, you just have a way or wording things...I too watched 20/20 last night and I am not one to yell in rush hour traffic, or get mad when someone cuts me off...but I have the smallest fuse when it comes to my kids...I know that sounds horrible and all I wanted to do last night during 20/20 was scoop my sleeping kids up and cuddle them and love them and promise never to yell at them again...it shouldn't be harder for me to be nice to my family than it is to be nice to strangers...so that is gonna change, not that I am going to be mean to non-family members....but I will stop and let things calm down...like you said, dried spagetti IS easier to clean up!!! Thanks Sarah!
I love this thought. I too was one of the bored out of my minds ladies who watched it last night. Why weren't we playing together??
I would have SO been the person to put the chili powder in the food just to get even. I was a mean mean girl back in my day.
I have worked super hard over the last few years to tone down my anger and my family has benefited from it. I won't even begin to say that I am anything close to what I need to be, but I am closer than I was before.
Sarah, this is just what I needed apparently, as I haven't been on the blogging boards for quite a while as I just haven't really been up to it. Is it possible to be too lazy to sit at my computer and blog? THAT is pretty sad isn't it!
Anyway, so I check out your blog and read the great thoughts about anger. This is just after I discover BLUE PLAYDOUGH in my carpet. I am one of those terrible "Anti-playdough" moms, because although it is so fun, it is bound to be a disaster. Kade got some playdough for his birthday, and for some reason they broke into it un-supervised! ;) And, although they did clean up their mess I do have a big blue mashed in spot in the carpet. OH well, who doesn't have a stain right? Shows signs of a "lived in" home! :) You are awesome.
Sooo true! What's the name of the book? Sounds interesting!~ Okay, so I think I must be the only one who missed 20/20, but I'm glad you reminded me to stop and think more. I think my problem is I'm so overwhelmed trying to figure out which screaming kid to answer first, that I don't even have a moment to get mad. (kidding- it slips through at times...)
Anyway, I can't picture you ever loosing your cool with your kids! We enjoyed having Luke! Jonny said, "Luke I'm going to miss you sooo much!" So, please, let us borrow him again soon!
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